It might have happened a lot of times that some friend or family member, in an effort to try and put across something ended up saying., "Trust me". Or before a conversation over a sensitive topic started "Do you trust me" .
Nothing much to say after that, other than listen to them. What is that made you shut up your mouth and listen. The person just requested or questioned you about the trust thing..Is trust such a big issue in the fast moving lives.
I feel YES. When I question or request that means I somewhere doubt and I want the person on the other side to once again reiterate it with a Yes that he/she trusts me. On the other hand the beautiful part could be where we never put up such statements yet there is this tacit understanding...I feel this is what is more important.
We might have been friends for years, good friends, does that insure that we trust each other...I doubt that. Because we might have a huge group of friends, but within that group we have favourism, not expressed, not given much thought as to why but can say just like that. We have one or two special friends , confidates. If the group knows 10 things about me..they know that others dont know the other 10. They are the people to be cherished, and to have their companythrough out your life is worth the effort, here is where trust comes in...wherever I may be I know my confidate is just a call away, and probably I might not even need to make that call he will be there for me before that.
Trust is too big a word to be used just like that. A regular meeting, a 20/24 hrs togetherness, an all festival and all occassions gift exchange, valentine roses, holi colours, diwali de patakhe, hour long phone calls at 15 min intervals, the bike/car drops to and fro , the buying pink shirts/skirts, the long lonely drives, the incessed yellow envelopes( i think the colour is right) does not create/generate/evolve/surface Trust.
They dont need to do even the slightest bit of the above , rather they have the liberty to not to do any of these, and miss out any occassion howsoever isspeshul that may be, what so ever may occur just that the TRUST that someone is there is worth giving up all this and setting them free to enjoy life the way they want to.
Small third person skirmishes, a regular nok-jhonk, not keeping in contact for long, rather anything that you can think of (apart from forcing me to watch ekta kapoors' serials) can break that confidence, and if you have had this its never toooo late it would be one of the best things that you might have done in your life,inexplicable thing, to again patch up with one such friend.
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//Trust is too big a word to be used just like that.
Good point.
well...i guess trust is something that develops over time..infact not having any ups and downs in the relationship...(whatever kinda relationship that may be)..doesnt really mean that the relationship has trust....as a matter of fact the squabbles and the misunderstandings...and the fact that ur relationship can withstand all that...strengthen ur bond...and this is what metamorphoses into trust..!!!!..but for all that to happen there is a need for both parties to actually sit each other down...COMMUNICATE..coz no matter what..communication is the key to resolving most of the issues...!!!!
At times people take it to heart that their best friend didn't trust them and if he/she did not really trust them...how can he/she be their best friend??? But they fail to realise that 'that' best friend had a reason to not-trust them..and given the relationship 'that' best friend deserves an explanation...!!!
I guess rather than making it an ego-issue that "MY FRIEND DOUBTED ME", its better to sort it out...and not lose a friend over nothin!!!!!
arre bhai... never knew ki u used to think in such details n also pen down so beautifully....
"There are many issues which explanations can sort out... for everything else there's TRUST!!"
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