Traditional...yes I am.

There was this post that talked about traditions, why do we follow them when we don’t have any “logic” for doing it. I don’t know if I will be able to convince you, definitely thats not the motive, but surely I will try and put across as to what I think about the same. Or why I feel certain “things” as in why “traditions” are followed.
Before I go ahead with anything I know that the generation today (that’s me included) will not just take anything without a reason, a rational logic as to “why this/that”. I rather see it in a different view, if I don’t know/understand something that does not mean that is wrong, rather I have not met somebody who can actually explain those things to me. Till then on this basis, if I feel the person who has earlier been following it is sensible and has had no harm if not any visible gain from it, I follow it.

1) People pray to God everday, many might not pray yet believe in God. I personally feel there is no “entity” as God, it is just a thought. The point is why was there a need to do so.
If today I tell my younger brother have faith in me I am there with you all the time, and go ahead and do this/that anything. The outcome is my brother will do whatever he may be doing with confidence, with the feeling that “bhai hai na koi chinta nahin sab theek hoga”. Many years from now no matter how far he may be, he might not have met me for years but he still has that faith in me. If now a slight twist to it, if I had told him its only when you do things that are right , right as in the way I perceive them to be, it is only then I am with you. Result he would only do those things with me in mind as a support that I have listed are right, rest he will think twice before taking a step ahead. Similar, is the case with God.
There might be hazaar things that you and I might feel why we or others have to do it like its being done. This feeling that there is somebody who is keeping a watch, somebody who I have not seen not most of the world has seen (but some body who is preaching him knows the so called GOD better than me), but the faith that he is there till I do the right things boosts confidence, never lets me down, gives me an optimistic approach to life, ability to gather courage to fight again and again with the same passion after every defeat, that one day when all is perfect according to “him” I will definitely win.

1) If by just accepting that God might exist, and I am not sure of this
because of my ignorance my lack of the complete picture, brings about
such a positive change in me I will now and always accept that.

2) On the part of the society it somehow brings down the crime graph. With the fear that
somebody is watching and I will have to pay for it someday,most of us are prevented
from that ugly begining.

3) Why to do that early morning, it was not only early morning but as you call it the 3-5
Am time or “Brahma Muhurat” as you call it. Reson being that is the best time to get
up ,remember early to bed early to rise, fresh air, serenity, total calmness, before sun-
rise so that you are able to absorb the first rays of the sun that are good for your body,
the hymns and the sound of brass has a pleasant effect (the sonic vibrations) on the body.
4) You get some time for yourself early morning to, more time to work during the
daylight (earlier there was no electricity). Even today and in coming times it holds
relevance, in europe people shift clocks by an hour to work in daylight and save energy,
it is good to save electricity….i think atleast that does not need an explanation.

2) Their were certain customs born or rather made, they did not exist as part of the ancient literature that gave most of the customs. Like this one of daughter-in-law washing her mother-in-law’s feet and thereafter drinking that water, they were an outcome of the want to impose the dominance of the mother-in-law coz of ….( this I can not explain the ladies know it better). Today all this has changed, firstly the broad viewpoint due to education, rise of nuclear families and other things. So, you can not put them in traditons they should definitely be opposed. But learn the lesson before doing that, respect your “SAAS” atleat for her being elder, having seen more life, and your man’s mother.

3) Sirname change, earlier there were small families and ladies were mostly house wife’s. Their identity was, their father before marriage and their man after marriage. People knew each other by their sirnames, ghosh babu ke bache, aggarwal sahab ki maan, etc etc..So, to keep things simple change the sirname so that you can identify the family simply by the sirname. Secondly, the confusion to their children what to keep is obviated. Other wise it will be like Mr X. ahuja her wife Mrs.Y. negi. Son of Mr. ahuja and daughter of Mrs. Negi. How doubtful!!!!!

4) Sindoor and magalsutra that were just an identification to differentiate married and prospective girls. At all times the male species has been manchala, but earlier they respected this bond of marriage and only eyed the others. Today it makes no difference neither to the males, females, married, many times married, single, not married but double etc etc species that are here nowadays.

5) As far as stepping on a book and touching your forhead and your chest and murmuring forgiveness. I just will ask you to do one thing forget that you have to do such things just for 6 months don’t do it. After six months you would never do it. They are not meant to prove that you respect the book but to reinstate and that you don’t forget that they have to be respected. When you respect them you will take care of the book that will be handled well ( I don’t know about most ppl but as a result of not having this habit most of my engineering books are in a bad state, I feel bad having not taken care of them). When you respect something somebody you feel what they say, or what is written in them is right and to be followed . That is what the custom wanted to convey, read them, handle them well so they are your companions for long.

6) As far as non-vegetarianism I would say change your food habits only if you believe in what you are doing is right, rather than it being a forced one. Just take a look when a fresh chicken, lamb or pig from the time it is ready to be slaughtered, to the time it is skinned and then decide would you like to have that even when you have other options. I wont argue much on this but as far as my knowledge base is concerned I know that vegetarian food is
healthier, people live longer and healthier see your grandpa-grandma.
Some might ask why to keep fasts, why to eat a particular thing as
recommended on a particular day and so on. Our body does not need the
amount of food we eat, in order to remain fit the body needs to detoxify
and so somedays we need to keep a fast. Why certain days,or certain
things after regular intervals, it is only the psycological effect that we
start feeling hungry each day at almost the same time because we start
thinking “yaar khana nahin khaya” . In short all these are just like a
doctors prescription in disguise of customs, try to follow and you wont
need to diet I assure you.

I follow all of these and will till I find a reason not to do so, if that defines me as traditional I am without doubt.

galti ho gayi..

Just recently I went to college for my convocation, a year later, during this period a new batch had entered which did not recognize us. While in college our group was one of those groups that went up on stage and spoke just anything about girls, not obscene but not so appreciating too. Now, one of this fresh sundar , provocative, kanyamaal who had a lot of, so called attitude, saw us staring her (we did that all the time) she just came and
hadka diya humko. Then this is what followed...

Mijaz sambhalo apna, ae husn ki mallika ;
Raja hoon main is mohalle is gali ka.
Bado se seekho, izzat karo hamari;
Poocho unse jo hamare prakop se guzari hain saari.
Jab hum apna moonh kholte the to who kaanpti thi;
Aaj unka number na ho, yahi dua mangti thi.
Main to kuch bhi nahin , mera ek yaar hai;
Bunnu naam hai uska, use har sundar kanya se pyar hai.
Shukra karo uska dil tum par nahin aaya;
Jis par aaya, who kanya kam uska premi jyada pachtaya.
Rang uska hai shri Krishna jaisa;
Personality wise hai yamraj ka bhainsa.
Khushi ho ya gam, uska kaam hai bas maarna;
Privately thodi kam, publicaly khul ke sabki utarna.
Ek prani “Gadre” hai, jisne uska bura kiya;
Char saal wali ko paanch saal ki degree bana diya.
Who bas abhi thodi der main yahan aayega;
Is baar rehersal karega, agli baar degree le jaayega.
Isliye, tum dono baar, usse bach ke rehna;
Maine agah nahin kiya tha, phir na kehna.
Itna kehna tha ki usne zor se ghoora;
Hamain laga aaj to time ho gaya poora.
Tabhi hamar Hero, hamar “Man all Black” aa gaya;
Aisa laga, jaise khule maidan main kutte ko khamba pa gaya.
Usne kanya ke virodh main aisa sur lagaya;
Ladies army ka poora dal ghabraya.
Kanya dheere dheere apna dhairya khone lagi;
Seham gayi,sehsa subak subak kar rone lagi.
Ehsaas hua hamne galat taar ched diye,
Maafi ke pose main dono haath jod liye.
Bole pata nahin kaise form main aa gaye galti hui,
Aap achi lagti hain, humse door chalti hui.
Chali jaiye isse pehle ki yahan bawaal ho jaye,
Kahin home grounds main ijjat na chali jaye.
Kaan pakd liye aisa episode dubara nahin karenge,
College tha to bach gaye bahar pucca marenge.
Tum sab bhi suno, aisa kuch mat kar dena,
Karo to kanya ke rone se pehle kat lena.

dhanyavad

lekhak
aapka apna gaurav