Age 12yrs : just entering my teens.
I read a story of Prithviraj Chauhan and his beloved Sanyukta and how the great warrior, fled with the lady, with the other so called kings and learned people watching and gaping. The lessons learnt from this story .
1) The girl gets to choose from equals, who she thinks, is best suited for her.
2) If she has chosen somebody then it is his birth right to flee with her irrespective of whosoever may be behind his back.
This kind of had a deep wala impact. I felt that there will be a day when some beauty like Sanyukta would come up to me and say she wanted to marry me, putting all my equals in the trash bin, and clearly making a huge statement that I was better than all present for the “Swayamvar” and best suited. The mere thought of it made me feel happy.
Tic-Tic-Tic (this is the clock, could not put visuals of a tyre rotating ,like bollywood) .
Age 18, about to exit the teens:
I had been told the legal age for marriage in India for males is 21yrs and for females 18yrs. So now I felt as if the ladies might be looking at me, because they were now at a age to get married, and it will be fun when somebody would approach and I would very seriously say, you will have to wait for 3yrs if you believe in the Indian govt. rules, or if you want to patch up early u can trust me. The govt. appeared to be like those trash bin kings, the lady like Sanyukta and me of course The great PC.(Prithviraj Chauhan). But nothing such ever happened I graduated from college, staring continuously without a blink, waiting for my Sanyukta. The time came when I was 21 and also passed by. Nothing changed, except that I was made clear that it is not the girl but you who will choose who will be your bride.
Question no 1: will the lady I choose, get married to me?
Ans no 1: YES.
Queston no 2: will I have to choose one from two or will it be little more choice?
Ans 2: Boy there will be a line, a crowd.
“Dil main gud-gudi hui”
Again the good feeling revived, new vigour that now it is me who selects, “SWAYAMVADHU” WOW!!!, the lady, her family, my family all will support me , I felt like a ….like a KING.
Age 25yrs: status quo as of today: SINGLE
So follow the following:
Note :MANDATORY FOR PEOPLE WHO SAY THEY ARE MY “FRIENDS “
1) Never have any of those thoughts as stated above. These thoughts go into the trash bin and not those equals, who were, and are,not equals but far far ahead of you in this race.
2) Never ever register your self at those marriage bureau kinds, shaadi .com etc….it will be heartbreaking to hear while you are pointed out to the lady’s father and remarked “Sir, he is the most eligible bachelor amongst those registered here, all other 98 of 100 got married, your hard luck sir the last one decided to pursue a bachelors life”
3) Always keep in mind that you don’t get to choose, and there is nothing such as “The Best” from a hoard of proposals. Coz, there will never be so many to call them “many.” Moreover they will be the ones who were never approached by any of those “equal kings”.
4) It is she and not you who is making the selection, so don’t let the opportunity pass by, you may (rather most of the times I am definite) will not get a second chance.
5) Always respect the family of the bride, it was they who actually gave you the privilege to say,"I am married," in this lifetime, by forcing (or cunningly convincing) that you are the best match for her, moreover saying that she would be happy post marriage.(How great are those parents who can actually bluff their daughters into marriage with people like us, I really bow to these real life Managemet Guru’s, they should be prof’s in the Mergers and Acquisitions subject.)
6) Respect the bride for succumbing to her family and not eloping with the “padosi ka ladka” who she thought and still feels, was a better choice.
7) Above all, always it is you who has to try to maintain the relationship as amicable as possible, coz she at any point of time has lots of choices. Even greater is the tragedy that you don’t have and will never have anything such as a CHOICE.
