Not all days are same, neither are all the days all together different. The so called average office going salaried person has nothing much to see, do or experience on every day basis. Life is monotonous, boring yet accepted, yet moving and yet we all would not want to escape from this.
This was just a simple thing i wanted to put forward that whatsoever may come, few things are bound not to change one of them is the way we have led are lives till now and most of us will continue doing that.
After having said this , why is there a mention of a particular day. It started just like a normal day. Me getting up early, drank 4 full glasses of lukewarm water with black salt, then the bath etc etc. Went to office. Things appeared normal, only that i was aware that today my IITB management result will be out. So, kind of nervous a little bit. But suddenly a labourer came running panting and said something that i could not make out. Other than the fact that something needed urgent attention. I was later told that while drilling the basement the mud collapsed and one worker (name i dont know) was burried under it. The foolish contractor in a state of panic asked the earthmover to quickly dig out the person. In a state of panic and hurry the earthmover hit the worker in his ribs . Broke the ribs and made a big bruise there rather a hole. They got him out from there and that is when the person i met in office panting came there.
We were reported that it was difficult for him to survive, yet the managers there could not take a decision what to do. They called up their boss in US for such stupid and trivial issues like, which car to send, is there a wireless set in that car, is the labourer companies or contractors, who all will go and nonsense. It took about and hour before they dispatched him out. He died on the way. I was present all the time. Things that came out from this
1) i am working with incapable managers
2) incapable to the extent that a layman can act better than them in such a situation.
3) they had their own cars not one offered , neither had the guts to go ahead and take control of the situation to save a life. Rather they called up their boss in the US.
4) the HR acted as if he had nothing to do with that. The real son of a bitch he is.
5) for them their bosses command , their job, their vehicle expense is more than the life of a worker who was working for them. Even some unknown roadside dog if found in a bad state is taken care of by the nearby people.This man had and end worse than the dog, ya what else can u say.
6) Not one of them went ahead to give mouth to mouth respiration because he was a low level labourer, his life is of less money than the toothpaste cost, and the mouthwash that they used.The other labourers didnt know how to give mouth to mouth respiration, one reason he could not make it to the hospital.
7) people like the vice president did not even went to have a look they were busy in checking mails, finalising a purchase price etc etc even when he knew what had happened.
These kind of F****** things went on and on. Where was i ?
Initially trying to get knowledge of how, then instructing how to give mouth to mouth and just waiting and watching while abusing the managers and coworkers. I dont know for what reson, could be the fear of losing a job (something that did not come that time) and definintely i dont think this could be the reason, or for the reason that i was a little helpless, or it did not strike that i could forcibly take the car and drive and etc etc. did not strike me. I simply let that man die.
I dont know how to put it, but my job desperation, my limitations put and end to a life. I can not overcome that guilt and neither can i have it come on my face. People say hate is too strong a word to be used, i think i really hate my self for having let this happen.
I have written a resignation letter, but holding on to it till i get another job.The dilema is should i quit right now or hold on the way it is, thinking and accepting that I am not "The one" to change this, as far as i get my salary all is fine. But this can happen to me you or anyone, think about it.
Then came the result of IITB i did not make it. This did upset me but probably not even 1% of the above episode.It shows bad, and good are so very relative things, one thing that was the most important(a career turning point, a years effort etc ) till the minute before the episode did not impact much, rather this incident has made me rethink how to start ahead now on.
Be practical and write back what would you have done had you been there at my place there then and now, on Thursday 23/03/2006.
Thursday, March 23, 2006
Thursday, March 16, 2006
Is india conservative?
How do you come to know that India is still kind of conservative. Lets try and solve this simple question with even simpler questions or instances, observations which you might have heard or seen at some point of time.
Q1. mummy main kaise paida hua???
A1 beta bhagwan ne bheja.
A2 beta koi baba aaye aur tumhe yahan bahar chod gaye.
A3 yeh bhi koi poochne ki baat hai, chalo jao padhai karo.
In class when biology teacher is teaching reproductory system?
"maam can you please explain once again" as you say this she says "read it you will know". She does not repeat anything, the entire chapter is completed in one go. While this process is on, she is all red, and there is a continuous sound of gigling and hush hush in the class.
When some newly married couple goes for honeymoon, and you happen to ask "arre bhai dulha - dulhan kahan hai" The family responds with utmost simplicity " ji woh to GHOOMNE gaye hain".
The first time a girl calls you up, the time you talk to her just twice of that you have to spend explaining who is she, what for she called up, why did she call YOU up, why not others. By the end of the day more people in your family know about this , than the number of people who know that you still piss in bed.(not me as in some people still might)
All girls in typical indian dresses suits and sarees are welcome with respect mixed with and icing of suspicion. The western clothes clad are scanned from top to bottom (to find what she missed out while buying the dress), compared to some far better bollywood babe and ending with cliche's like "yeh aaj kal ki ladkiyan . pata nahin kya kapde pehneti hain, kya poore kapdon ke jyada paise lagte hain? hamare jamane main kahan aisa hota tha, sharam to bech khayi"
When you have a kid, and people wish you congratulations instead of feeling only great(and macho) and saying thanks you always append it(shyly) with statements like "bhai aapko bhi aakhir aap iske chacha hai ya etc hai"
Then there are instances when you are watching some serial or MTv kinds with your family, suddenly the advertisement comes up of durex, nirodh ks etc. Now no escape, if you have the remote you might change the channel(contradictory to your personal wish, and pray it repeats when all leave), or you just happen to start gazing the floor, roof, bedsheets or something as if suddenly the roof/floor broke off etc . At times you just pick up a conversation and all pretend to get involved with lots of "haan haan, nahin nahin aise kaise etc coupled with head shaking"
You might be of 20+yrs of age still you can not watch 18+ movies on star (now stopped) or other channels which are bold to continue. Neither go for a english romantic movie with the family, you will always be on the edge of your seat, the on screen couple might shoot off anytime. All people entering a hall showing "A" rated movies, look around before they enter the theatre.
Where still people think that "only girls" can be molested or raped the male clan is safe and secure and nothing of such nomenclature can happen to them.
I think lots many things like these will put across the way India thinks (as in the majority). I could get these, see if you can add to it something that you came across.
Q1. mummy main kaise paida hua???
A1 beta bhagwan ne bheja.
A2 beta koi baba aaye aur tumhe yahan bahar chod gaye.
A3 yeh bhi koi poochne ki baat hai, chalo jao padhai karo.
In class when biology teacher is teaching reproductory system?
"maam can you please explain once again" as you say this she says "read it you will know". She does not repeat anything, the entire chapter is completed in one go. While this process is on, she is all red, and there is a continuous sound of gigling and hush hush in the class.
When some newly married couple goes for honeymoon, and you happen to ask "arre bhai dulha - dulhan kahan hai" The family responds with utmost simplicity " ji woh to GHOOMNE gaye hain".
The first time a girl calls you up, the time you talk to her just twice of that you have to spend explaining who is she, what for she called up, why did she call YOU up, why not others. By the end of the day more people in your family know about this , than the number of people who know that you still piss in bed.(not me as in some people still might)
All girls in typical indian dresses suits and sarees are welcome with respect mixed with and icing of suspicion. The western clothes clad are scanned from top to bottom (to find what she missed out while buying the dress), compared to some far better bollywood babe and ending with cliche's like "yeh aaj kal ki ladkiyan . pata nahin kya kapde pehneti hain, kya poore kapdon ke jyada paise lagte hain? hamare jamane main kahan aisa hota tha, sharam to bech khayi"
When you have a kid, and people wish you congratulations instead of feeling only great(and macho) and saying thanks you always append it(shyly) with statements like "bhai aapko bhi aakhir aap iske chacha hai ya etc hai"
Then there are instances when you are watching some serial or MTv kinds with your family, suddenly the advertisement comes up of durex, nirodh ks etc. Now no escape, if you have the remote you might change the channel(contradictory to your personal wish, and pray it repeats when all leave), or you just happen to start gazing the floor, roof, bedsheets or something as if suddenly the roof/floor broke off etc . At times you just pick up a conversation and all pretend to get involved with lots of "haan haan, nahin nahin aise kaise etc coupled with head shaking"
You might be of 20+yrs of age still you can not watch 18+ movies on star (now stopped) or other channels which are bold to continue. Neither go for a english romantic movie with the family, you will always be on the edge of your seat, the on screen couple might shoot off anytime. All people entering a hall showing "A" rated movies, look around before they enter the theatre.
Where still people think that "only girls" can be molested or raped the male clan is safe and secure and nothing of such nomenclature can happen to them.
I think lots many things like these will put across the way India thinks (as in the majority). I could get these, see if you can add to it something that you came across.
Wednesday, March 15, 2006
holi hai......abhi pata laga !!!
India has many good things that makes it stand apart from others, apart from you and me lots of festivals is one good reason. Holi the most recent one gone by.
When staying at home or in a metro, city,town, village or any civilized (as in with people around) you firstly know the right day and date, secondly with lots of people around you know what all to do to enjoy the festival, and even more you actually do it.
When you are away from civilization you miss out on all such things, the beauty of such festivals. It is at such places I realised that my biology teacher was right, man is an animal a social animal.
Right in the desert of rajasthan, i never came to know it was holi till one crew member came by with enought gulal to put tika and not more. Quite similar was the holi in college final year, just that we are a big bunch of hostelers, high on bhang preparing for it 2 days in advance.
It started with a plan to dig a hole in the hostel lawn area, fill it water so that the land becomes mushy and loose. This was the place for so called "herbal holi". The tool to dig, a board pointing towards a sapling reading" this was planted by the director of the college on some date years ago" ( the sapling not there just the board). Pulled it out and we started off.
This ended till evening, then came the preparations for bhang, went to the market could not find it openly. So bought other accessories for "thandai" then asked the mess cook to arrange bhang. he went out and brought fresh from the college back side and showed a lot of it growing there.
Holi morning, no cliched happy holi wishes or good morning, just a knock on the door and as the door opens and before you realise whats up. you are up in the air, people lifting you not for GPL but for the herbal holi bath. You are pushed and rolled and kicked and mud forced to all places you can think of, while this is on only try to save your underwear so that it does not come off, many couldn't do that.
After all have had a good face and body herbal pack, the entire group marched to the girls hostel singing the all time hits, rang barse and aaj na chodenge etc. The boys forced open the main gate but could not move ahead so in the lawns started a typical hindi film holi. With a bunch of freaked out unrecognizable, drunk and mentally unstable due to bhang, shouting dancing and throwing eggs colour on the girls standing in the 1st floor balcony, the girls reciprocating equally with enthu.
This ended with a stint with all bhang ppl having a meeting and the leader our narender tau delivering a multitopic, multilingual, nonstop, uninterrupted speech for more than an hour.
Now thats holi !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When staying at home or in a metro, city,town, village or any civilized (as in with people around) you firstly know the right day and date, secondly with lots of people around you know what all to do to enjoy the festival, and even more you actually do it.
When you are away from civilization you miss out on all such things, the beauty of such festivals. It is at such places I realised that my biology teacher was right, man is an animal a social animal.
Right in the desert of rajasthan, i never came to know it was holi till one crew member came by with enought gulal to put tika and not more. Quite similar was the holi in college final year, just that we are a big bunch of hostelers, high on bhang preparing for it 2 days in advance.
It started with a plan to dig a hole in the hostel lawn area, fill it water so that the land becomes mushy and loose. This was the place for so called "herbal holi". The tool to dig, a board pointing towards a sapling reading" this was planted by the director of the college on some date years ago" ( the sapling not there just the board). Pulled it out and we started off.
This ended till evening, then came the preparations for bhang, went to the market could not find it openly. So bought other accessories for "thandai" then asked the mess cook to arrange bhang. he went out and brought fresh from the college back side and showed a lot of it growing there.
Holi morning, no cliched happy holi wishes or good morning, just a knock on the door and as the door opens and before you realise whats up. you are up in the air, people lifting you not for GPL but for the herbal holi bath. You are pushed and rolled and kicked and mud forced to all places you can think of, while this is on only try to save your underwear so that it does not come off, many couldn't do that.
After all have had a good face and body herbal pack, the entire group marched to the girls hostel singing the all time hits, rang barse and aaj na chodenge etc. The boys forced open the main gate but could not move ahead so in the lawns started a typical hindi film holi. With a bunch of freaked out unrecognizable, drunk and mentally unstable due to bhang, shouting dancing and throwing eggs colour on the girls standing in the 1st floor balcony, the girls reciprocating equally with enthu.
This ended with a stint with all bhang ppl having a meeting and the leader our narender tau delivering a multitopic, multilingual, nonstop, uninterrupted speech for more than an hour.
Now thats holi !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thursday, February 23, 2006
Saadi hai re......
A few days back I attended my friend ke bhai ki marriage. The whole process of planning started two days rather 4 days before. I got a call from her she said that she wanted us to come over for two functions…Ladies sangeet and ofcourse the marriage. The latter was expected but the former was shocking, it put me into doubt if they doubted my being a male…the good part was all friends (male as per my parameters) were invited. It, was a relief that I was still the same, so we decided to refrain from it. That was important for us, in future we also had to get married!!!!!!!!!!.
Next day, morning gave a call to friends ..bhai kab jaane ka hai?? Tonight at 9.30 pm. Ok. After a hectic , sweaty day I somehow managed to get some time to change (yet no time for bath, good the angrezi chamdi made deodorants). I am kind of averse to wearing the suits my attire most comfortable jeans and shirt (formal on top, casual below the waist….now don’t get weird ideas). Went to Ankit’s place where we all decided to meet, and headed for the venue( I didn’t even know where it was, just the thought of free food and khulla dance attracted me there). We reached there met an old friend after about 7yrs or so, he had changed as we all had, with small and cute little tummies hanging from the tightly strapped belts, making it larger and more visible. The usual salutations, accompanied by the traditional four letter lingo.
As soon as we entered I headed for what I had come, FOOD. My friends asked me to control myself, as people were watching, moreover we had not met the bride and the groom and neither paid for (GIFTS !!!, amazing this is the only place where you pay in advance, other than self service restaurants) the food. So, straight I headed towards them with quick steps said congrats and the photographer requested for the usual group photograph. I was made to stand in the center with a 1000 watt halogen glowing below the feet behind my back. The photograph will be wonderful with a aura like the gods surrounding me, just that it would be shifted from the head (in god’s case) to the pelvic region in my case ( the gods talent and my talent differ, makes me realize again I am human).
Then the party time, all stalls tasted and tested, variety was abundant, yes of the food and the hosts. Lovely people, they were busy in the wedding and we were busy filling are already hanging tummies.
I don’t know what others think of but for me weddings (of others) are about, superficial hello’s and hi’s, party , photographs , dance and a natural bye.
Next day, morning gave a call to friends ..bhai kab jaane ka hai?? Tonight at 9.30 pm. Ok. After a hectic , sweaty day I somehow managed to get some time to change (yet no time for bath, good the angrezi chamdi made deodorants). I am kind of averse to wearing the suits my attire most comfortable jeans and shirt (formal on top, casual below the waist….now don’t get weird ideas). Went to Ankit’s place where we all decided to meet, and headed for the venue( I didn’t even know where it was, just the thought of free food and khulla dance attracted me there). We reached there met an old friend after about 7yrs or so, he had changed as we all had, with small and cute little tummies hanging from the tightly strapped belts, making it larger and more visible. The usual salutations, accompanied by the traditional four letter lingo.
As soon as we entered I headed for what I had come, FOOD. My friends asked me to control myself, as people were watching, moreover we had not met the bride and the groom and neither paid for (GIFTS !!!, amazing this is the only place where you pay in advance, other than self service restaurants) the food. So, straight I headed towards them with quick steps said congrats and the photographer requested for the usual group photograph. I was made to stand in the center with a 1000 watt halogen glowing below the feet behind my back. The photograph will be wonderful with a aura like the gods surrounding me, just that it would be shifted from the head (in god’s case) to the pelvic region in my case ( the gods talent and my talent differ, makes me realize again I am human).
Then the party time, all stalls tasted and tested, variety was abundant, yes of the food and the hosts. Lovely people, they were busy in the wedding and we were busy filling are already hanging tummies.
I don’t know what others think of but for me weddings (of others) are about, superficial hello’s and hi’s, party , photographs , dance and a natural bye.
Saturday, February 18, 2006
Traditional...yes I am.
There was this post that talked about traditions, why do we follow them when we don’t have any “logic” for doing it. I don’t know if I will be able to convince you, definitely thats not the motive, but surely I will try and put across as to what I think about the same. Or why I feel certain “things” as in why “traditions” are followed.
Before I go ahead with anything I know that the generation today (that’s me included) will not just take anything without a reason, a rational logic as to “why this/that”. I rather see it in a different view, if I don’t know/understand something that does not mean that is wrong, rather I have not met somebody who can actually explain those things to me. Till then on this basis, if I feel the person who has earlier been following it is sensible and has had no harm if not any visible gain from it, I follow it.
1) People pray to God everday, many might not pray yet believe in God. I personally feel there is no “entity” as God, it is just a thought. The point is why was there a need to do so.
If today I tell my younger brother have faith in me I am there with you all the time, and go ahead and do this/that anything. The outcome is my brother will do whatever he may be doing with confidence, with the feeling that “bhai hai na koi chinta nahin sab theek hoga”. Many years from now no matter how far he may be, he might not have met me for years but he still has that faith in me. If now a slight twist to it, if I had told him its only when you do things that are right , right as in the way I perceive them to be, it is only then I am with you. Result he would only do those things with me in mind as a support that I have listed are right, rest he will think twice before taking a step ahead. Similar, is the case with God.
There might be hazaar things that you and I might feel why we or others have to do it like its being done. This feeling that there is somebody who is keeping a watch, somebody who I have not seen not most of the world has seen (but some body who is preaching him knows the so called GOD better than me), but the faith that he is there till I do the right things boosts confidence, never lets me down, gives me an optimistic approach to life, ability to gather courage to fight again and again with the same passion after every defeat, that one day when all is perfect according to “him” I will definitely win.
1) If by just accepting that God might exist, and I am not sure of this
because of my ignorance my lack of the complete picture, brings about
such a positive change in me I will now and always accept that.
2) On the part of the society it somehow brings down the crime graph. With the fear that
somebody is watching and I will have to pay for it someday,most of us are prevented
from that ugly begining.
3) Why to do that early morning, it was not only early morning but as you call it the 3-5
Am time or “Brahma Muhurat” as you call it. Reson being that is the best time to get
up ,remember early to bed early to rise, fresh air, serenity, total calmness, before sun-
rise so that you are able to absorb the first rays of the sun that are good for your body,
the hymns and the sound of brass has a pleasant effect (the sonic vibrations) on the body.
4) You get some time for yourself early morning to, more time to work during the
daylight (earlier there was no electricity). Even today and in coming times it holds
relevance, in europe people shift clocks by an hour to work in daylight and save energy,
it is good to save electricity….i think atleast that does not need an explanation.
2) Their were certain customs born or rather made, they did not exist as part of the ancient literature that gave most of the customs. Like this one of daughter-in-law washing her mother-in-law’s feet and thereafter drinking that water, they were an outcome of the want to impose the dominance of the mother-in-law coz of ….( this I can not explain the ladies know it better). Today all this has changed, firstly the broad viewpoint due to education, rise of nuclear families and other things. So, you can not put them in traditons they should definitely be opposed. But learn the lesson before doing that, respect your “SAAS” atleat for her being elder, having seen more life, and your man’s mother.
3) Sirname change, earlier there were small families and ladies were mostly house wife’s. Their identity was, their father before marriage and their man after marriage. People knew each other by their sirnames, ghosh babu ke bache, aggarwal sahab ki maan, etc etc..So, to keep things simple change the sirname so that you can identify the family simply by the sirname. Secondly, the confusion to their children what to keep is obviated. Other wise it will be like Mr X. ahuja her wife Mrs.Y. negi. Son of Mr. ahuja and daughter of Mrs. Negi. How doubtful!!!!!
4) Sindoor and magalsutra that were just an identification to differentiate married and prospective girls. At all times the male species has been manchala, but earlier they respected this bond of marriage and only eyed the others. Today it makes no difference neither to the males, females, married, many times married, single, not married but double etc etc species that are here nowadays.
5) As far as stepping on a book and touching your forhead and your chest and murmuring forgiveness. I just will ask you to do one thing forget that you have to do such things just for 6 months don’t do it. After six months you would never do it. They are not meant to prove that you respect the book but to reinstate and that you don’t forget that they have to be respected. When you respect them you will take care of the book that will be handled well ( I don’t know about most ppl but as a result of not having this habit most of my engineering books are in a bad state, I feel bad having not taken care of them). When you respect something somebody you feel what they say, or what is written in them is right and to be followed . That is what the custom wanted to convey, read them, handle them well so they are your companions for long.
6) As far as non-vegetarianism I would say change your food habits only if you believe in what you are doing is right, rather than it being a forced one. Just take a look when a fresh chicken, lamb or pig from the time it is ready to be slaughtered, to the time it is skinned and then decide would you like to have that even when you have other options. I wont argue much on this but as far as my knowledge base is concerned I know that vegetarian food is
healthier, people live longer and healthier see your grandpa-grandma.
Some might ask why to keep fasts, why to eat a particular thing as
recommended on a particular day and so on. Our body does not need the
amount of food we eat, in order to remain fit the body needs to detoxify
and so somedays we need to keep a fast. Why certain days,or certain
things after regular intervals, it is only the psycological effect that we
start feeling hungry each day at almost the same time because we start
thinking “yaar khana nahin khaya” . In short all these are just like a
doctors prescription in disguise of customs, try to follow and you wont
need to diet I assure you.
I follow all of these and will till I find a reason not to do so, if that defines me as traditional I am without doubt.
Before I go ahead with anything I know that the generation today (that’s me included) will not just take anything without a reason, a rational logic as to “why this/that”. I rather see it in a different view, if I don’t know/understand something that does not mean that is wrong, rather I have not met somebody who can actually explain those things to me. Till then on this basis, if I feel the person who has earlier been following it is sensible and has had no harm if not any visible gain from it, I follow it.
1) People pray to God everday, many might not pray yet believe in God. I personally feel there is no “entity” as God, it is just a thought. The point is why was there a need to do so.
If today I tell my younger brother have faith in me I am there with you all the time, and go ahead and do this/that anything. The outcome is my brother will do whatever he may be doing with confidence, with the feeling that “bhai hai na koi chinta nahin sab theek hoga”. Many years from now no matter how far he may be, he might not have met me for years but he still has that faith in me. If now a slight twist to it, if I had told him its only when you do things that are right , right as in the way I perceive them to be, it is only then I am with you. Result he would only do those things with me in mind as a support that I have listed are right, rest he will think twice before taking a step ahead. Similar, is the case with God.
There might be hazaar things that you and I might feel why we or others have to do it like its being done. This feeling that there is somebody who is keeping a watch, somebody who I have not seen not most of the world has seen (but some body who is preaching him knows the so called GOD better than me), but the faith that he is there till I do the right things boosts confidence, never lets me down, gives me an optimistic approach to life, ability to gather courage to fight again and again with the same passion after every defeat, that one day when all is perfect according to “him” I will definitely win.
1) If by just accepting that God might exist, and I am not sure of this
because of my ignorance my lack of the complete picture, brings about
such a positive change in me I will now and always accept that.
2) On the part of the society it somehow brings down the crime graph. With the fear that
somebody is watching and I will have to pay for it someday,most of us are prevented
from that ugly begining.
3) Why to do that early morning, it was not only early morning but as you call it the 3-5
Am time or “Brahma Muhurat” as you call it. Reson being that is the best time to get
up ,remember early to bed early to rise, fresh air, serenity, total calmness, before sun-
rise so that you are able to absorb the first rays of the sun that are good for your body,
the hymns and the sound of brass has a pleasant effect (the sonic vibrations) on the body.
4) You get some time for yourself early morning to, more time to work during the
daylight (earlier there was no electricity). Even today and in coming times it holds
relevance, in europe people shift clocks by an hour to work in daylight and save energy,
it is good to save electricity….i think atleast that does not need an explanation.
2) Their were certain customs born or rather made, they did not exist as part of the ancient literature that gave most of the customs. Like this one of daughter-in-law washing her mother-in-law’s feet and thereafter drinking that water, they were an outcome of the want to impose the dominance of the mother-in-law coz of ….( this I can not explain the ladies know it better). Today all this has changed, firstly the broad viewpoint due to education, rise of nuclear families and other things. So, you can not put them in traditons they should definitely be opposed. But learn the lesson before doing that, respect your “SAAS” atleat for her being elder, having seen more life, and your man’s mother.
3) Sirname change, earlier there were small families and ladies were mostly house wife’s. Their identity was, their father before marriage and their man after marriage. People knew each other by their sirnames, ghosh babu ke bache, aggarwal sahab ki maan, etc etc..So, to keep things simple change the sirname so that you can identify the family simply by the sirname. Secondly, the confusion to their children what to keep is obviated. Other wise it will be like Mr X. ahuja her wife Mrs.Y. negi. Son of Mr. ahuja and daughter of Mrs. Negi. How doubtful!!!!!
4) Sindoor and magalsutra that were just an identification to differentiate married and prospective girls. At all times the male species has been manchala, but earlier they respected this bond of marriage and only eyed the others. Today it makes no difference neither to the males, females, married, many times married, single, not married but double etc etc species that are here nowadays.
5) As far as stepping on a book and touching your forhead and your chest and murmuring forgiveness. I just will ask you to do one thing forget that you have to do such things just for 6 months don’t do it. After six months you would never do it. They are not meant to prove that you respect the book but to reinstate and that you don’t forget that they have to be respected. When you respect them you will take care of the book that will be handled well ( I don’t know about most ppl but as a result of not having this habit most of my engineering books are in a bad state, I feel bad having not taken care of them). When you respect something somebody you feel what they say, or what is written in them is right and to be followed . That is what the custom wanted to convey, read them, handle them well so they are your companions for long.
6) As far as non-vegetarianism I would say change your food habits only if you believe in what you are doing is right, rather than it being a forced one. Just take a look when a fresh chicken, lamb or pig from the time it is ready to be slaughtered, to the time it is skinned and then decide would you like to have that even when you have other options. I wont argue much on this but as far as my knowledge base is concerned I know that vegetarian food is
healthier, people live longer and healthier see your grandpa-grandma.
Some might ask why to keep fasts, why to eat a particular thing as
recommended on a particular day and so on. Our body does not need the
amount of food we eat, in order to remain fit the body needs to detoxify
and so somedays we need to keep a fast. Why certain days,or certain
things after regular intervals, it is only the psycological effect that we
start feeling hungry each day at almost the same time because we start
thinking “yaar khana nahin khaya” . In short all these are just like a
doctors prescription in disguise of customs, try to follow and you wont
need to diet I assure you.
I follow all of these and will till I find a reason not to do so, if that defines me as traditional I am without doubt.
galti ho gayi..
Just recently I went to college for my convocation, a year later, during this period a new batch had entered which did not recognize us. While in college our group was one of those groups that went up on stage and spoke just anything about girls, not obscene but not so appreciating too. Now, one of this fresh sundar , provocative, kanyamaal who had a lot of, so called attitude, saw us staring her (we did that all the time) she just came and
hadka diya humko. Then this is what followed...
Mijaz sambhalo apna, ae husn ki mallika ;
Raja hoon main is mohalle is gali ka.
Bado se seekho, izzat karo hamari;
Poocho unse jo hamare prakop se guzari hain saari.
Jab hum apna moonh kholte the to who kaanpti thi;
Aaj unka number na ho, yahi dua mangti thi.
Main to kuch bhi nahin , mera ek yaar hai;
Bunnu naam hai uska, use har sundar kanya se pyar hai.
Shukra karo uska dil tum par nahin aaya;
Jis par aaya, who kanya kam uska premi jyada pachtaya.
Rang uska hai shri Krishna jaisa;
Personality wise hai yamraj ka bhainsa.
Khushi ho ya gam, uska kaam hai bas maarna;
Privately thodi kam, publicaly khul ke sabki utarna.
Ek prani “Gadre” hai, jisne uska bura kiya;
Char saal wali ko paanch saal ki degree bana diya.
Who bas abhi thodi der main yahan aayega;
Is baar rehersal karega, agli baar degree le jaayega.
Isliye, tum dono baar, usse bach ke rehna;
Maine agah nahin kiya tha, phir na kehna.
Itna kehna tha ki usne zor se ghoora;
Hamain laga aaj to time ho gaya poora.
Tabhi hamar Hero, hamar “Man all Black” aa gaya;
Aisa laga, jaise khule maidan main kutte ko khamba pa gaya.
Usne kanya ke virodh main aisa sur lagaya;
Ladies army ka poora dal ghabraya.
Kanya dheere dheere apna dhairya khone lagi;
Seham gayi,sehsa subak subak kar rone lagi.
Ehsaas hua hamne galat taar ched diye,
Maafi ke pose main dono haath jod liye.
Bole pata nahin kaise form main aa gaye galti hui,
Aap achi lagti hain, humse door chalti hui.
Chali jaiye isse pehle ki yahan bawaal ho jaye,
Kahin home grounds main ijjat na chali jaye.
Kaan pakd liye aisa episode dubara nahin karenge,
College tha to bach gaye bahar pucca marenge.
Tum sab bhi suno, aisa kuch mat kar dena,
Karo to kanya ke rone se pehle kat lena.
dhanyavad
lekhak
aapka apna gaurav
hadka diya humko. Then this is what followed...
Mijaz sambhalo apna, ae husn ki mallika ;
Raja hoon main is mohalle is gali ka.
Bado se seekho, izzat karo hamari;
Poocho unse jo hamare prakop se guzari hain saari.
Jab hum apna moonh kholte the to who kaanpti thi;
Aaj unka number na ho, yahi dua mangti thi.
Main to kuch bhi nahin , mera ek yaar hai;
Bunnu naam hai uska, use har sundar kanya se pyar hai.
Shukra karo uska dil tum par nahin aaya;
Jis par aaya, who kanya kam uska premi jyada pachtaya.
Rang uska hai shri Krishna jaisa;
Personality wise hai yamraj ka bhainsa.
Khushi ho ya gam, uska kaam hai bas maarna;
Privately thodi kam, publicaly khul ke sabki utarna.
Ek prani “Gadre” hai, jisne uska bura kiya;
Char saal wali ko paanch saal ki degree bana diya.
Who bas abhi thodi der main yahan aayega;
Is baar rehersal karega, agli baar degree le jaayega.
Isliye, tum dono baar, usse bach ke rehna;
Maine agah nahin kiya tha, phir na kehna.
Itna kehna tha ki usne zor se ghoora;
Hamain laga aaj to time ho gaya poora.
Tabhi hamar Hero, hamar “Man all Black” aa gaya;
Aisa laga, jaise khule maidan main kutte ko khamba pa gaya.
Usne kanya ke virodh main aisa sur lagaya;
Ladies army ka poora dal ghabraya.
Kanya dheere dheere apna dhairya khone lagi;
Seham gayi,sehsa subak subak kar rone lagi.
Ehsaas hua hamne galat taar ched diye,
Maafi ke pose main dono haath jod liye.
Bole pata nahin kaise form main aa gaye galti hui,
Aap achi lagti hain, humse door chalti hui.
Chali jaiye isse pehle ki yahan bawaal ho jaye,
Kahin home grounds main ijjat na chali jaye.
Kaan pakd liye aisa episode dubara nahin karenge,
College tha to bach gaye bahar pucca marenge.
Tum sab bhi suno, aisa kuch mat kar dena,
Karo to kanya ke rone se pehle kat lena.
dhanyavad
lekhak
aapka apna gaurav
Tuesday, January 31, 2006
Rang De Basanti !!!!!
I can give you a list of films that I feel have had the same kind of impact, a déjà vu of patriotism. Rather a sense of helplessness of not being able to do anything and watching it all happen, yet always a part of the crowd which has opinions. Opinions that are never in the affirmative in context of the politicians, definitely pessimistic about the future of the nation, and unsure of what we want to do with our lives.
Swades
Lakshya
Rang de basanti
Hazaar khwaishen aisi
Yuva
There might be many more such movies but these are the recent ones .I think all those who visit this blog just take out some time, from your not so busy schedule and watch these films. The feeling is different for all but with the common root that I/We are not doing anything to improve the present.
Rightly said by Aamir in RDB “ hamari ek taang kal par hai aur ek taang future par isliye toh hum aaj par muut rahe hain”.
This was one dialogue that I think summarizes the state of all of us.
The politician is there to bank on anything that might have taken place decades back but he will not let those wounds heal. Can be anything from the 1984 riots, to trvial questions like Was jinnah secular? Arre what the F*** what effect does it have on you , your way of functioning, your thought process. Neither does it affect me the person who made the mistake of placing you there. These oldies are stuck up there, some have made a graceful exit likes of vajpayee. This is the cartel that has one foot in the past and other in the “kabar”.
The others are like us, the youth of today. They have just one thing on their minds I have to be something, someone successful tomorrow. I don’t say that wrong but what comes along with this thought is that this dream cannot be fulfilled staying in India. And even if they stay in India they need to be some software professional, or some actor and singer..etc etc. Who is a part of the system till everything goes smoothly , and smoothly means till anything that directly affects him does not happen. Even when it does he will read it in the newpaper hear it on AAJ TAK kinds sabse tez channels and back to office. Discuss sophisticatedly WHAT will happen, and waiting for some kind a miracle or superhero to flip the existing state. Mostly it does not happen because all who can do it wait for somebody other than them to do it. So, in the end “sab thoda adjust kar lete hain, yehi karte aaye hain aur yehi karte rahenge”. Why because I don’t know what will happen even if I give up my job, the system wont change. And I am sure it wont until we don’t take the onus of doing it.
Join politics, civil services , IPS , Army and many such options..it is due to less numbers that things don’t change. These numbers are low so either they submit to the system or they are killed. This affects directly who want to join, with reasons as “uska kya hua, who to acha aadmi THA”. This forms a kind of a vicious circle and the right point to break it is where it all starts.
And because of this attitude of ours the only thing we are able to do and are good at is to crib about our present.
“yeh jo dar hain , kya hoga, main haar gaya to, yeh sirf tab tak jab tak main us andar ki awaaz ko nahin sunta ya sunna nahin chahta. Jis din wo haavi ho jaayegi us din yeh dar bhi khatam ho jaayega, hamesha hamesha ke liye, kyonki samajh aa jayega ki is koshish main kabhi main haar nahin sakta. Jeet to nischit hai sawal bas itna hai ki ya to yeh mere samne hogi ya mere baad, par hogi zaroor.”
Swades
Lakshya
Rang de basanti
Hazaar khwaishen aisi
Yuva
There might be many more such movies but these are the recent ones .I think all those who visit this blog just take out some time, from your not so busy schedule and watch these films. The feeling is different for all but with the common root that I/We are not doing anything to improve the present.
Rightly said by Aamir in RDB “ hamari ek taang kal par hai aur ek taang future par isliye toh hum aaj par muut rahe hain”.
This was one dialogue that I think summarizes the state of all of us.
The politician is there to bank on anything that might have taken place decades back but he will not let those wounds heal. Can be anything from the 1984 riots, to trvial questions like Was jinnah secular? Arre what the F*** what effect does it have on you , your way of functioning, your thought process. Neither does it affect me the person who made the mistake of placing you there. These oldies are stuck up there, some have made a graceful exit likes of vajpayee. This is the cartel that has one foot in the past and other in the “kabar”.
The others are like us, the youth of today. They have just one thing on their minds I have to be something, someone successful tomorrow. I don’t say that wrong but what comes along with this thought is that this dream cannot be fulfilled staying in India. And even if they stay in India they need to be some software professional, or some actor and singer..etc etc. Who is a part of the system till everything goes smoothly , and smoothly means till anything that directly affects him does not happen. Even when it does he will read it in the newpaper hear it on AAJ TAK kinds sabse tez channels and back to office. Discuss sophisticatedly WHAT will happen, and waiting for some kind a miracle or superhero to flip the existing state. Mostly it does not happen because all who can do it wait for somebody other than them to do it. So, in the end “sab thoda adjust kar lete hain, yehi karte aaye hain aur yehi karte rahenge”. Why because I don’t know what will happen even if I give up my job, the system wont change. And I am sure it wont until we don’t take the onus of doing it.
Join politics, civil services , IPS , Army and many such options..it is due to less numbers that things don’t change. These numbers are low so either they submit to the system or they are killed. This affects directly who want to join, with reasons as “uska kya hua, who to acha aadmi THA”. This forms a kind of a vicious circle and the right point to break it is where it all starts.
And because of this attitude of ours the only thing we are able to do and are good at is to crib about our present.
“yeh jo dar hain , kya hoga, main haar gaya to, yeh sirf tab tak jab tak main us andar ki awaaz ko nahin sunta ya sunna nahin chahta. Jis din wo haavi ho jaayegi us din yeh dar bhi khatam ho jaayega, hamesha hamesha ke liye, kyonki samajh aa jayega ki is koshish main kabhi main haar nahin sakta. Jeet to nischit hai sawal bas itna hai ki ya to yeh mere samne hogi ya mere baad, par hogi zaroor.”
Friday, January 20, 2006
Kavi ki phir se koshish!!!!!
After Ramu’s James flopped on the box office (he had not expected that) , in state of depression he decided to make something that was liked by all. Mythology was something that caught his interest, so he ventured out to make “Modern Mahabharat (not Mahabharata) “. The problem was he had to find characters, where in people could relate/recognize them i.e known personalities. They should be real life characters. He started with bollywood and due to the dearth of actors he searched for them in the parliament. So, this is how it goes….as usual in HINGLISH ( Hindi written in English)…
James flop hone ke baad Ramu ko vichar aaaya;
Usne modern Mahabharat banane ka beeda uthaya .
Bola character wahi hoga jo original type lagega;
Shuruat ki mithun da se, voh dhritrashtra ke liye jamega.
Use dikhta nahin; ki uski film koi nahin dekhta;
Phir bhi khud banata, kharidta aur bechta hai.
Amitabh ko bhishm pitamah ka role dena padega;
Wahi ek hai jo sattar(70) ki umar main bhi action karega.
Dharam paaji bane bheem aur Sunny ghatotkatch bana;
Panchali ke role ke liye, ready for such roles, mallika ko chuna.
Emran hashmi ko kaamdev ka cameo diya;
Aur uski choice se udita ko as Mainka liya.
Is prakar Jyadatar +ve character bhar gaye;
Sirf –ve role aur “Shikhandi” reh gaye;
Is khoj main sansad ki or kadam badaye;
Darwaaze par hi kai shikhandi nazar aaye.
Frame main left ka neta fit baithta hai;
Kehta hai support hai par har mudde par congress ki laga deta hai.
Achanak sansad main shor machne laga;
Sabko Dushasan ka role hot lagne laga.
Ramu ne Draupadi urf Mallika ki safety ka khayal kiya;
Cheer-haran ka kaam “brahmachari” Vajpayee ji ko diya.
Aur jiski “jangha” chaudi hogi, voh Duryodhan banega;
Phir to Draupadi ko baithane ka subhagya Amar Singh ko milega.
Dayanidhi maran ne INDIA-ONE ka ashvasan diya;
Local call main kaam hoga, isliye use Sanjay bana diya.
Jo din main gayab, raat main dikhe, use Jarasandh banaiye,
Gawli ya Shahbuddin, main se kisi ko pakad laiye.
Jo pet main seekha, ab tak usi ke bal par chal raha tha;
Isliye Abhimanyu ke liye Rahul jam raha tha.
Jin mahapurushon ke dar se opposition ne satta chod di;
Aise, Lalu, Mayawati or Mulayam ko kaurav sena ki bagdoor di.
Mata Sonia ko Kunti aur shriman Manmohan ko Karan banaya;
Ek female aur uske “ehsaan” se daba male,aur joda mil nahin paya.
Sansad bhavan ko Kurushetra banaya;
Aur ek saal philm banane main lagaya.
Kuch dekhne gaye, baakiyon ne film chalane ka paisa diya;
Agle kai saal baad ka ticket advance main liya.
Bole isko superhit banana majboori hai;
Neta ki asliyat saamne lana jaroori hai.
Yadi hum yeh trend ulat kar aisa bana paye;
Jahan neta parde ka abhineta ban jaye.
Toh jald hi sansad inse mukt ho jayega;
Bharat ko phir navoday ka ek mauka mil payega,
phir ek mauka mil payega.
Dhanyavad.
Lekhak
gaurav
James flop hone ke baad Ramu ko vichar aaaya;
Usne modern Mahabharat banane ka beeda uthaya .
Bola character wahi hoga jo original type lagega;
Shuruat ki mithun da se, voh dhritrashtra ke liye jamega.
Use dikhta nahin; ki uski film koi nahin dekhta;
Phir bhi khud banata, kharidta aur bechta hai.
Amitabh ko bhishm pitamah ka role dena padega;
Wahi ek hai jo sattar(70) ki umar main bhi action karega.
Dharam paaji bane bheem aur Sunny ghatotkatch bana;
Panchali ke role ke liye, ready for such roles, mallika ko chuna.
Emran hashmi ko kaamdev ka cameo diya;
Aur uski choice se udita ko as Mainka liya.
Is prakar Jyadatar +ve character bhar gaye;
Sirf –ve role aur “Shikhandi” reh gaye;
Is khoj main sansad ki or kadam badaye;
Darwaaze par hi kai shikhandi nazar aaye.
Frame main left ka neta fit baithta hai;
Kehta hai support hai par har mudde par congress ki laga deta hai.
Achanak sansad main shor machne laga;
Sabko Dushasan ka role hot lagne laga.
Ramu ne Draupadi urf Mallika ki safety ka khayal kiya;
Cheer-haran ka kaam “brahmachari” Vajpayee ji ko diya.
Aur jiski “jangha” chaudi hogi, voh Duryodhan banega;
Phir to Draupadi ko baithane ka subhagya Amar Singh ko milega.
Dayanidhi maran ne INDIA-ONE ka ashvasan diya;
Local call main kaam hoga, isliye use Sanjay bana diya.
Jo din main gayab, raat main dikhe, use Jarasandh banaiye,
Gawli ya Shahbuddin, main se kisi ko pakad laiye.
Jo pet main seekha, ab tak usi ke bal par chal raha tha;
Isliye Abhimanyu ke liye Rahul jam raha tha.
Jin mahapurushon ke dar se opposition ne satta chod di;
Aise, Lalu, Mayawati or Mulayam ko kaurav sena ki bagdoor di.
Mata Sonia ko Kunti aur shriman Manmohan ko Karan banaya;
Ek female aur uske “ehsaan” se daba male,aur joda mil nahin paya.
Sansad bhavan ko Kurushetra banaya;
Aur ek saal philm banane main lagaya.
Kuch dekhne gaye, baakiyon ne film chalane ka paisa diya;
Agle kai saal baad ka ticket advance main liya.
Bole isko superhit banana majboori hai;
Neta ki asliyat saamne lana jaroori hai.
Yadi hum yeh trend ulat kar aisa bana paye;
Jahan neta parde ka abhineta ban jaye.
Toh jald hi sansad inse mukt ho jayega;
Bharat ko phir navoday ka ek mauka mil payega,
phir ek mauka mil payega.
Dhanyavad.
Lekhak
gaurav
Tuesday, January 17, 2006
Sex ratio...is it imp.???
The figures (not the 36-24-36 ones… they are no more, 24-24-24 is whats available everywhere) show that there is a decline in sex –ratio within a few years and severely in Punjab reaching to 780’s. This has led to a whole lot of problems, not visible till you are about to search for a girl to marry. As usual our bollywood has encashed upon it through a wonderful film “Matrabhoomi”( the producer might not have got much returns, but hats off for the effort the team put in to put forth a future calamity).
Guys looking for girls, with girls as scarce as …..clothes on guys in boys hostels, in summers.This is what is the situation as of now, if somehow the NGO’s are able to reverse the situation.Govt. I doubt can do that …if they try to then leaders like Lalu get a chance to increase the inhouse population. If NGO's are able to do it then what all can take place.
If the ratio is critical with even greater disparity than in Punjab…then the morning
news -papers and the news will be full of stories like..
1) Even heavy names like, Gajraj Singh, gangraped in broad daylight in a moving open gypsy in Delhi. Delhi not safe anymore for men with statitcs giving numbers of rapes in the current month, last quarter and the year till then.
2) Guys will be advised to wear full sleeve shirts, no low rise jeans and avoid dressing provocatively to avoid attracting attention of passer byes.
3) Always keep pepper sprays and swiss knifes just in case you are fortunate to be pestered only by one blonde. Delhi police will give personal protection training to men.
4) Don’t go around late in the night, always take the busy roads where street lights are working.
5) Don’t go alone , always drive with windows shut and if possible not tainted.
6) In discos be careful of the crowd and especially of girls who try to be overfriendly, that might be a trap ..do I need to say for what.
7) In schools (everybody experiences this only that I am putting it down) if the teacher for biology is a male, all guys will be listeining expression less, with smirks and giggles from the female species. The teacher is a little embarrassed and his face is all red, praying nobody should put up a question especially from the topics of reproductory systems.
8) In colleges girls will always be inquisitve about what goes around in the Boys hostels.
9) Boys hostels will be converted into a fort, with restricted time entries and females guards guarding the doors outside.
10) On occasions especially like holi…girls breaking the doors to come and play holi with guys ,locked and hurled inside the fort, heavily guarded by females.
11) Engineering college girls banging their heads “ yaar yeh kya class ratio hai 100:10 saala stephens ya hindu main hote to sahi tha, kaam se kaam maal to bhara rehta. Pura DU saath hota aram se aankhen sekte.. hat saala engineering main toh life ka kaand ho gaya.
12) All guys getting good marks from lady teachers, the topper will be a guy, and a definite job, with companies like TCS, HSS picking up all those who come to them.
13) In discos no fag entry for females, males allowed, so girls waiting to ask if somebody could accompany them while they pay for you.
14) Call centers giving out rules no first pick up and last drop for guys, they have to be with a girl, the lady driver might cause him harm.
15) Politicians winning elections by promising to raise the issue of reservation for men in all fields (they would be the oppressed ones when in minority.)
16) In remote areas, one guy being married off to all 2 or 3 or more sisters when scarcity is high.
And hazaar other things like that will happen .. give a thought, especially the guys, are you willing to have the world like that…think deeply .. power of imagination is the key to decide if this is right or not...So, enjoy dreaming.
Guys looking for girls, with girls as scarce as …..clothes on guys in boys hostels, in summers.This is what is the situation as of now, if somehow the NGO’s are able to reverse the situation.Govt. I doubt can do that …if they try to then leaders like Lalu get a chance to increase the inhouse population. If NGO's are able to do it then what all can take place.
If the ratio is critical with even greater disparity than in Punjab…then the morning
news -papers and the news will be full of stories like..
1) Even heavy names like, Gajraj Singh, gangraped in broad daylight in a moving open gypsy in Delhi. Delhi not safe anymore for men with statitcs giving numbers of rapes in the current month, last quarter and the year till then.
2) Guys will be advised to wear full sleeve shirts, no low rise jeans and avoid dressing provocatively to avoid attracting attention of passer byes.
3) Always keep pepper sprays and swiss knifes just in case you are fortunate to be pestered only by one blonde. Delhi police will give personal protection training to men.
4) Don’t go around late in the night, always take the busy roads where street lights are working.
5) Don’t go alone , always drive with windows shut and if possible not tainted.
6) In discos be careful of the crowd and especially of girls who try to be overfriendly, that might be a trap ..do I need to say for what.
7) In schools (everybody experiences this only that I am putting it down) if the teacher for biology is a male, all guys will be listeining expression less, with smirks and giggles from the female species. The teacher is a little embarrassed and his face is all red, praying nobody should put up a question especially from the topics of reproductory systems.
8) In colleges girls will always be inquisitve about what goes around in the Boys hostels.
9) Boys hostels will be converted into a fort, with restricted time entries and females guards guarding the doors outside.
10) On occasions especially like holi…girls breaking the doors to come and play holi with guys ,locked and hurled inside the fort, heavily guarded by females.
11) Engineering college girls banging their heads “ yaar yeh kya class ratio hai 100:10 saala stephens ya hindu main hote to sahi tha, kaam se kaam maal to bhara rehta. Pura DU saath hota aram se aankhen sekte.. hat saala engineering main toh life ka kaand ho gaya.
12) All guys getting good marks from lady teachers, the topper will be a guy, and a definite job, with companies like TCS, HSS picking up all those who come to them.
13) In discos no fag entry for females, males allowed, so girls waiting to ask if somebody could accompany them while they pay for you.
14) Call centers giving out rules no first pick up and last drop for guys, they have to be with a girl, the lady driver might cause him harm.
15) Politicians winning elections by promising to raise the issue of reservation for men in all fields (they would be the oppressed ones when in minority.)
16) In remote areas, one guy being married off to all 2 or 3 or more sisters when scarcity is high.
And hazaar other things like that will happen .. give a thought, especially the guys, are you willing to have the world like that…think deeply .. power of imagination is the key to decide if this is right or not...So, enjoy dreaming.
Monday, January 09, 2006
Is it flowing upwards-3!!
The fourth phase.... (you might feel kya Gita type adhyay likh raha hai, but that was best i could think of)
Joined not the best but a good company in oil sector, paid well , worked in Assam and Tripura for a year. Beautiful place, lovely people and a wonderful experience. The day I got a job that was one ineffable moment of life. I was one of those last 20 people out of 350+ in college to get a job, I and even my friends never thought the placemet phase would be that bad for me, this made it even more precious. I had really bad experiences during the placement phase,I confess i reached a level where i was desperate to get a job. But bhagwan saath they.. sab guzar gaya.
Soon I joined the company. Life was fun, but as it happens with all when put into a new place you are totally perplexed as to what to do and how to do, result being a total black out. In that phase I thought the work was not worth, and started preparing for CAT( the billi is a dream of many, for some it is majboori due to situations...I am the hybrid variety). My managers felt i was not doing my job with dedication as i was preparing for mgmt (it was not justified on their part because I was fully dedicated to the company's work and only in free time, if i got and i rarely got that, i studied). Yet they felt so and asked me to resign, rather than they investing on me.They found it would be a better option (the fact was they thought by this they would frighten me and i would give up....par hum bhi date rahe). I felt once you are the sore of the eye for some reason it is difficult to actually perform, not because it's tough but because then you are the underdog who is desperate to stay lest they might throw you out, your mistakes are labelled as blunders and achievements shared etc. ... etc. Their strategy failed, I resigned ,this came as an unexpected event.... then they came up with things like , lollipops as we call them, promotions, study leave and etc...etc.
There is a saying people leave managers not companies .. that was the case here and I didnt want to go there .. i liked many things but when your management is a pain in the ass, it is difficult to obviate that for long..(waise bhi purani kahavat hai... thook ke chata to ijjat kahan bachi). I took a major decision to prepare for MBA, without a job, I stayed for 3 months and put in a lot under tremedous pressure with nothing to fall back on .. but somehow it did not work... Somewhere during the preparation phase and all those mock tests i gave i realised I am still far far behind. I need to take up a job as a backup which I might need soon. TCS came as a respite for that time. Not much work was there I gave my exams. Result was bad and even the TCS experience. Got an offer from Focus oil and joined it. This is a new company, setup by an Indian who once failed in Phoenix shoes. Underpaid less of many things ... and yet the only option, coz TCS cannot take me anywhere.
While in TCS i was willing to join any MBA college upto B-grade but when i got this offer i am really not able to decide what to do..difficult situation. I have a few options of IITB , IMT, IMI and if possible in future also... on the other hand this company with an entirely new setup no experience in oil and a very small fish amongst the oil sharks.
Lets see what happens, after all this episode few lessons learnt. When others preach listen but analyse from your perspective. eg. most said CAT can be cleared by 3 mnths of prepartion, they did it coz they actually put in 3 months fully and atleast 9 months earlier superficially. So, for people like me 1 year minimum, advice for all.
Next, never quit a job without something in hand, my friends cleared CAT without quitting the job, devoting less time. So, in the end it appears that " I am an even bigger duffer, stupid and all possible antonyms of words like sensible and intelligent". And even worse is the feeling to ask for money when you can actually earn yourself, from anybody. So,dont do this.
After having reached this stage there is still the big question mark. Am i actually progressing after having quit/left/rejected/not offered/failed in so many events in life. Is my career my life flowing upwards or has it taken the downward flow or stagnated.. Difficult to make out. But hope with determination to fight drives me .. "I will never ever be a part of the worst in any field, I will always strive for a better tomorrow whatever the results may be. Rest i leave it to God. If I cannot judge for my self, only he can for me."
I wrote this trilogy for my self, unlike other blogs, so just this is simply the life and thoughts of a Bucolic.
Joined not the best but a good company in oil sector, paid well , worked in Assam and Tripura for a year. Beautiful place, lovely people and a wonderful experience. The day I got a job that was one ineffable moment of life. I was one of those last 20 people out of 350+ in college to get a job, I and even my friends never thought the placemet phase would be that bad for me, this made it even more precious. I had really bad experiences during the placement phase,I confess i reached a level where i was desperate to get a job. But bhagwan saath they.. sab guzar gaya.
Soon I joined the company. Life was fun, but as it happens with all when put into a new place you are totally perplexed as to what to do and how to do, result being a total black out. In that phase I thought the work was not worth, and started preparing for CAT( the billi is a dream of many, for some it is majboori due to situations...I am the hybrid variety). My managers felt i was not doing my job with dedication as i was preparing for mgmt (it was not justified on their part because I was fully dedicated to the company's work and only in free time, if i got and i rarely got that, i studied). Yet they felt so and asked me to resign, rather than they investing on me.They found it would be a better option (the fact was they thought by this they would frighten me and i would give up....par hum bhi date rahe). I felt once you are the sore of the eye for some reason it is difficult to actually perform, not because it's tough but because then you are the underdog who is desperate to stay lest they might throw you out, your mistakes are labelled as blunders and achievements shared etc. ... etc. Their strategy failed, I resigned ,this came as an unexpected event.... then they came up with things like , lollipops as we call them, promotions, study leave and etc...etc.
There is a saying people leave managers not companies .. that was the case here and I didnt want to go there .. i liked many things but when your management is a pain in the ass, it is difficult to obviate that for long..(waise bhi purani kahavat hai... thook ke chata to ijjat kahan bachi). I took a major decision to prepare for MBA, without a job, I stayed for 3 months and put in a lot under tremedous pressure with nothing to fall back on .. but somehow it did not work... Somewhere during the preparation phase and all those mock tests i gave i realised I am still far far behind. I need to take up a job as a backup which I might need soon. TCS came as a respite for that time. Not much work was there I gave my exams. Result was bad and even the TCS experience. Got an offer from Focus oil and joined it. This is a new company, setup by an Indian who once failed in Phoenix shoes. Underpaid less of many things ... and yet the only option, coz TCS cannot take me anywhere.
While in TCS i was willing to join any MBA college upto B-grade but when i got this offer i am really not able to decide what to do..difficult situation. I have a few options of IITB , IMT, IMI and if possible in future also... on the other hand this company with an entirely new setup no experience in oil and a very small fish amongst the oil sharks.
Lets see what happens, after all this episode few lessons learnt. When others preach listen but analyse from your perspective. eg. most said CAT can be cleared by 3 mnths of prepartion, they did it coz they actually put in 3 months fully and atleast 9 months earlier superficially. So, for people like me 1 year minimum, advice for all.
Next, never quit a job without something in hand, my friends cleared CAT without quitting the job, devoting less time. So, in the end it appears that " I am an even bigger duffer, stupid and all possible antonyms of words like sensible and intelligent". And even worse is the feeling to ask for money when you can actually earn yourself, from anybody. So,dont do this.
After having reached this stage there is still the big question mark. Am i actually progressing after having quit/left/rejected/not offered/failed in so many events in life. Is my career my life flowing upwards or has it taken the downward flow or stagnated.. Difficult to make out. But hope with determination to fight drives me .. "I will never ever be a part of the worst in any field, I will always strive for a better tomorrow whatever the results may be. Rest i leave it to God. If I cannot judge for my self, only he can for me."
I wrote this trilogy for my self, unlike other blogs, so just this is simply the life and thoughts of a Bucolic.
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